De-Coding the Positive Psychology Genes of Mediation’s DNA
By Dimitra Mousioli, Greek Family Lawyer and Mediator Dr Seuss, the famous writer gave us a very enlightening story of how people behave in a conflict. In that story he demonstrates how a stubborn "North-going Zax" and an equal stubborn "South-going Zax" were keep arguing of who would move away from the path so the other one would pass. Sitting firmly in their "position" the two angry Zax were leaving the life passing by without even noticing it. All their energy was focused on their opponent and their pride. ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dZmZzGxGpSs ) That conflict mindset is quite familiar to me as a family mediator when parents first enter into a mediation process. And, despite their hostile attitude, my job is to help them resolve their conflicts in the most amicable way and try to move on with their lives outside the painful and costly court procedure. But is conflict necessarily a threat, where we always have to act with the primitiv